"Learn the difference between a man who flatters you and a man who compliments you. A man who spends money on you and a man who invests in you. A man who views you as property and a man who views you properly. A man who lusts after you and a man who loves you."
— (via 1112pm)
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"It is very difficult, and often impossible, for someone else to give you what you cannot find in yourself."
— Robert J. Sternberg (via psych-facts)
"The work on social pain [shows] that some of the same neural regions that are involved in physical pain are involved in social pain, [which] can be very validating for people. For anyone who’s felt the pain of losing somebody or who’s felt the hurt feelings that come from being ostracized or bullied, there’s something very validating in seeing this scientific work that shows it’s not just in our head. It is in our head because it’s in our brain. It’s not just in our head, there is something biological going on that’s interpreting the pain of social rejection as something that really is a painful experience."
— Fascinating Edge conversation with UCLA social psychologist Naomi Eisenberger. For a poetic testament to this idea, see Shane Koyczan’ s spoken-word masterpiece “To This Day.” (via explore-blog)
"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other."
— Osho (via psych-facts)
Anonymous said: why do black people use you in the wrong context? such is "you ugly" instead of "you're ugly" I know u guys can differentiate, it's a nuisance
you a bitch
It’s called copula deletion, or zero copula. Many languages and dialects, including Ancient Greek and Russian, delete the copula (the verb to be) when the context is obvious.
So an utterance like “you a bitch” in AAVE is not an example of a misused you, but an example of a sentence that deletes the copular verb (are), which is a perfectly valid thing to do in that dialect, just as deleting an /r/ after a vowel is a perfectly valid thing to do in an upper-class British dialect.
What’s more, it’s been shown that copula deletion occurs in AAVE exactly in those contexts where copula contraction occurs in so-called “Standard American English.” That is, the basic sentence “You are great” can become “You’re great” in SAE and “You great” in AAVE, but “I know who you are” cannot become “I know who you’re” in SAE, and according to reports, neither can you get “I know who you” in AAVE.
In other words, AAVE is a set of grammatical rules just as complex and systematic as SAE, and the widespread belief that it is not is nothing more than yet another manifestation of deeply internalized racism.
I love linguistics!
Anonymous said: How many books must a man buy a girl before they may date and live happily ever after?
Got it? Good.
Yup. Exactly this many.
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